"But what about all the great kids who need to be adopted?
I don't have the answers.
My only suggestion would be for somehow when a kid has proven to be a danger to the family, there should be some help, another safe place to place the kids without the parents being blamed for the mental illnesses that came into their homes with the kids. " - Big Mama Hollers
Yes. I have been thinking about this topic a lot lately. As I contemplate how in the world we will ever be able to return to live with Cheyann if and when she ever does return to us.. navigating the excruciatingly difficult conflicting emotions ranging from fear of her return, to guilt over not parenting "better" to really missing her dearly.. what a roller coaster ride. And can I really say that I am still a proponent of adoption after all this? And yet.. when I got a call the other day with a request to take in not 1, not 2 but 4 siblings I actually found myself considering it!! Because in the end.. I do what I do because I care deeply about others and want to do all I can do to help.. but is there a point at which you have to consider the long term costs and ramifications to the family system as a whole? I agree with "big Mama".. I do not have an answer.
