Cowabunga

I've never actually been surfing, but I imagine the experience must have some real similarities to raising attachment-challenged children. To begin with there is the whole balance thing. It is always a battle trying to balance the needs of everyone in a family to begin with. When you factor in the executive function and social skill deficits of the attachment-challenged teens the board becomes that much smaller. And then there is the difficulty level. Surfing is not an easy sport. There are multiple skills needed to be successful as well as overall fitness and endurance. Also true for parenting these teens. But perhaps the similarity most striking to me is the wave factor. You just never really know what kind of wave you are going to get - how high it is going to be or how strong, and you have to be constantly on guard because you just can not predict when they will appear, how long they will last, or how strong they will be. So, you balance, utilize all your skills, and ride that wave. And then, you can rest for a time; always wary but at some level of peace, until the next one. And pray that there is enough time between them for you to prepare.. and catch your breath.